Her loyalty for the homeland is fanatical. She says so herself. I have to know more about her background before I totally write her off. I don't care for such blind devotion, the reasoning behind it must be good.
Are the children theirs biologically?
OMG! it is Phil Collins
I am willing to concede that the rape earlier made it easier for her to be the type of spy she is.
Kids are biologically theirs, yes.
I still don't completely get Elizabeth and the hows and whys of her feelings. It's what makes her so interesting. You can feel for her, see yourself making those hard choices in her place until a moment later when you don't understand why she does anything and you hate her. I think they were very lucky to find Keri Russell for the character b/c she brings a softness to her that isn't there otherwise...and it would be impossible to like her without it.
Her husband is definitely the more likeable character, but I like that Elizabeth is so difficult and layered.